Do you ever feel like you’re on the outside looking in?

Like you’re yearning to be seen and accepted, but for some reason, it’s just not happening?

A huge part of healing from tr@uma is moving from victim to victor in your own story.

It takes time and effort to uncover the fact that YOU have POWER to make choices that affect your situation…

Have you considered that perhaps there’s nothing wrong with you?

Maybe that feeling of not belonging, of being “wrong,” is actually leading you…

Every human being has an innate need to be seen.

Maybe your story is a bit like mine, and from the beginning of your life you had this desire to be seen, so along the way you did whatever you could to get that need filled…

What did your nervous system learn about love when you were a child?

Was it spelled p-e-r-f-o-m-a-n-c-e? P-o-w-e-r? P-a-i-n?…

There’s a point at which you have to decide that you’re going to do the work to get to the place where what other people assume about you or think about you or say about you doesn’t affect the way that YOU perceive you…

It feels like so much of the world is heavy right now, doesn’t it?

I know I have felt it. But inevitably, every year around this time I hear a Christmas hymn or see “glory to God in the highest” on a holiday banner, and I get choked up, remembering how Hope Himself came to us as a tiny baby, and the life He lived and the sacrifice He made because He LOVES us…

You must be so tired, love.

A lifetime is a long time to try to work to prove your worth. You should have never felt like that was necessary for safety, for love, for acceptance. I know you’re hardwired for hard work as a result, and nothing ever seems quite good enough. I know. I get it. It makes sense. But you don’t have to live like that, okay? Right now, if you must work hard, maybe you can work hard on rest, on being kind to yourself, and on leaning into the actual longings and desires of your own soul…

I grew up learning that love was earned.

I spent every day working very hard to get scraps of love. I didn’t know that was not what love was supposed to be. So when I grew up, that’s how I knew how to get my needs met: by being hyper-aware of what the people around me wanted and give it to them so that maybe I could be loved.

And for a lifetime I thought only the deserving found love, and that I was undeserving…

“Gabi, you do not belong in that space.”

“Gabi, who do you think you are? Stop going for things that are too big for you.”
“Gabi, you need to stop talking.”
“Gabi, your feelings are too big. There’s something wrong with you.”
“Gabi, know your place. Go away.”

Have you ever gotten messages like this? Have those messages been internalized to the point that it starts being your own voice saying them? …

I went to see the movie Tár yesterday, mostly because…hello - CATE BLANCHETT!!

Honestly, it’s VERY artsy. They rolled the credits first just to make you squirm kind of artsy. And the whole film was really just like looking into someone’s life uninvited and happening upon their conversations and situations. Everything was left up to the audience to interpret. But it was kind of magnificent and stomach roiling because of it…

With Him, there’s nothing to buy.

The grace of God is FREE...

The Love of Christ is FREE... The comfort of the Father is FREE... We do not have to perform up to a certain standard to receive ANY of this. We don’t have to be something we’re not in order to be accepted by Him.

They almost never turn out like you’d expect.

Here’s the thing about dreams...

They almost never turn out like you expect. They almost always take longer to transpire than you would like. Nearly every dream takes detours that will blindside you.

The secret sauce of your dreams is...YOU!

YOU are the magic!

We spend so much time trying to fit into a box or wishing our unique stories away or striving to become something we’re not because we believe deep down that we are not enough! But you ARE.

The healing is so important, don’t give up...

Guys, listen...I KNOW IT’S HARD!

Fully healing and choosing to keep growing and becoming the most vibrant and embodied version of YOU is WORK. And I’ll be honest, not everyone keeps going.

I’ve been getting requests for something like this for a while, and it’s finally here! I hope you will join me on Wednesday, October 20 for a FREE somatic healing coaching call: How to Feel Ok When You Are Not Ok. Put your email below to sign up, and you’ll get a Zoom link sent to you soon!

Feeling unsure about your purpose? Remember these things:

*Making people feel loved & seen is more important than career accomplishments.

*It’s okay to pay attention to the things that make your heart sing - and do more of that stuff.

*You don’t need to sacrifice your mental health to prove anything to anyone (including yourself).